Posts Tagged ‘Relationships’

Unexpected blessings

Written by Tyson Herald on . Posted in WBC Blog

Years from now when we look back at the winter of  2014 most people will remember the snow, the cold, the days off school. 

What I’ll remember most though is the unexpected blessings that God has given me this winter. While I’ve appreciated the extra physical workouts moving snow into large piles what has been most unexpected is quality time with my wife and kids. 

You see, I’d never take 3 days off in a row to sit in my house and play games with my family. Not that I don’t love spending time with them but if I’m taking a day off it needs to have purpose. I’d never choose to show up late to work. Multiple days of 2 hr delays for my kids school have allowed us to sit and have breakfast together or just enjoy a good episode of “Cat in the Hat”. 

I was reading Psalm 31:19 last week. “How great is your goodness, which you have stored up for those who fear you, which you bestow in the sight of men on those who take refuge in you.” 

Today I’m so thankful that God’s goodness has taken the form of snow, cold temps, and days off school. I’m thanking Him for these unexpected blessings. He has goodness stored up for those who fear Him. It may not appear in the form you anticipate.  Apparently, he also has snow stored up as well. Have you noticed any unexpected blessings so far this year? If so, what are they? 

Relationship advice?

Written by Tyson Herald on . Posted in WBC Blog

Recently, I started meeting with the two couples I get the honor of officiating their weddings this summer. In preparing for their pre-marriage counseling I had two thoughts:
 First, while pre-marital counseling is a great way to get started on the right foot I feel that it’s similar to getting your drivers license. In Indiana, you can start driving with a permit at age 15. Take the class, get enough hours behind the wheel and magically when you turn 16 you’re good to go. No one ever checks up on you at age 17, 18, or 30. Over time you develop bad habits, inconsistencies, and become somewhat lazy behind the wheel. In the same way, you spend the year before planning and getting ready for the wedding. Dreaming, hoping, planning, preparing are all focused on that big day. But what happens after the first 3, 6, or 12 months? The excitement and anticipation wear off and you find yourself going thru the motions. So, with these two couples I’m gonna try and spread what would typically be 4-5 sessions before you get married to 2-3 sessions before and 2 after they’re married. After all, isn’t that when the real “fun” begins? 🙂
Second, one of the couples asked me a question I’ve been thinking for the past few days. “Tyson, if you had one piece of marriage advice to give us what would it be and why?” I’ve never been asked to boil it all down to one thing before. I’ve only been married for 10 years and I’m not sure I’m the best person to be asking anyways. As I’ve thought about it here is what I’ve come up with. Check this out though, it’s not just for soon to be married people. It’s for anyone, in any relationship, any time. Die to self. 
As I’ve studied what Jesus called us to not only in our relationship with Him but also others, it’s die to self. Jesus laid down his life for us, he tells husbands to lay down their lives for their wives and he beckons all of us to lay it all down for our fellow man. 
I had a professor in college tell me that if I couldn’t love Shelley as my wife, then I had to love her as my neighbor. If I couldn’t love her as my neighbor, then I had to love her as my enemy. Either way, like it or not, God called me to love each one. 
What advice would you give?
Slowing learning to die to my self.




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